Grief and Loss

Dealing with Grief and lossThe process of mourning is experienced differently by each person. Some people will react immediately after the loss, others will react later.  For some people it will be a violent reaction, for others it will be milder. For some people it will be a short period of time, for others it will seem to go on for ever.

Grief is categorised as uncomplicated or complicated

Uncomplicated grief refers to feelings, thoughts and behaviours expected after a loss.

The feelings may be of sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, loneliness, fatigue, helplessness, shock, numbness, relief.

The physical sensations may be of tightness in the throat or the chest, hollowness in the stomach, oversensitivity to noise, weakness in muscles and lack of energy as well as dry mouth.

The person who is grieving often has difficulty concentrating on anything as they are preoccupied by thoughts of the deceased and they might be confused. They might have difficulty sleeping; they might experience lack of appetite; they might be absent minded and reluctant to socialise. They might dream of the deceased, might avoid reminders of the deceased, might call out or sigh. They often have restless hyperactivity and will go through bouts of crying.

Symptoms of grief and depression might be similar but grief and depression are different

In the case of uncomplicated grief, counselling provides support which is necessary for the mourner to go through the tasks of mourning.

Grief is complicated when the person has not been able to openly grieve for the loss. Therapy helps the person resolve the conflicts of separation so that they can better adapt to the loss. Through therapy the person will be given permission to grieve, something which may have been lacking at the time of the loss.

While there is no right or wrong as to how people grieve and deal with loss, signs of anxiety, lack of sleep or depression might indicate that the process of grieving is having consequences on the health of the bereaved and that help and support could be beneficial.

If you have any of the above symptoms and you are anxious, worried or concerned, consult with your doctor or you can contact me, give me call me on +971 55 732 99 66 or send me an email to and we can discuss your situation.


Couple and Relationship Therapist, Psychotherapist & Certified Life Coach

As an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist, I help people understand and challenge the negative dance they are in. Together we find ways to re-create the connection they are deeply craving.

As a Psychotherapist, I specialise in helping individuals understand and manage ‘difficult feelings and situations’ so that they can reconnect with their strengths and regain control of their life.

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Evelyne L Thomas